Today I noticed that someone I care seems to care more for someone else. I was consumed by the jealousy feeling and could not shake it off.
Out of my frustration, I searched for ways to deal with jealousy. It turns out that such feelings are rooted in our early childhood experiences from our parents or people closed to you. We tend to unconsciously replay old, familiar behavior in our current relationships. This was a shocking discovery.
Another essential factor is insecurity attributed to our harsh critical inner voice. It’s telling us that we are doomed to be deceived, hurt, or rejected. Unless we deal with this feeling in ourselves, we are trapped in feelings of jealousy, distrust, or insecurity in any relationship.
While reading articles about jealousy, I discovered that such raw human feelings could be explained logically. Observing my current jealousy feelings, it was true that I was feeling insecure about myself lately. I have to face my inner critics and stand tall against it. I love who I am – I need to give me self-acceptance and self-compassion more often to remain secure.
The remedy for jealousy is to love ourselves more. When the jealousy rears its ugly head, place our focus on US, not them.
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