My friend who passed away and I had a falling out the past few years. I have a few regrets about what I could have or what he should have before it became too late. Now I am turning all the negative emotions into a learning moment: Learn to forgive.
With all the years of practicing and preaching kids at playdates in settling conflicts, I should be able to forgive someone without any issues. But the truth is that it is much harder than I expected. I forgive and forget, but a moment later, the same resentment comes right back, like waves of emotions eroding my mind each time.
So, I sought out my answer in Dr. Wayne W. Dyer’s How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You: In 15 Steps. After reading it many times, I started to really understand what he means. My past history and all of my hurts are no longer here in my physical reality. So, why bother to hold on to them? I need to let them go. Let go and be like water. Every time I feel the surge of the negative emotion, I must let go. So, for now, whenever I feel the emotions, I put food scraps into the garbage disposal and say, “let go.” My therapeutic act to forgive and forget….
Learn to Live 